OMG, 7 years!

Hi All,

I am back. So much has gone on in these last 7 years…where do I begin!

  1. I am DIVORCED! I finally got up enough courage to say “BOY BYE!” You can read that on my other blog “Nurses speak out loud” and the blog post “Catching Flights”.
  2. I became a published author. If you know of some one who is going through a divorce or just starting over, recommend my book of devotionals.
  3. I am still a NURSE! Covid came and I am burnt out and returning to writing is what calmed and soothed my soul.
  4. I am a Nana x 2 to amazing and wonderful girls.
  5. I am healing! I am on a journey of self love, self awareness, self accountability, SELF EVERYTHING!
  6. I am older, lol!
  7. I went to therapy.
  8. I tried dating….to be continued.
  9. I am just focusing on myself and my new normal.

A New Beginning

It was the first day of SCHOOL!  YIPPIE!!! 


I love my beautiful and wonderful children and I am ready for them to get out that door, get on that big yellow monster, and walk into the newness of their lives.

They will be entering the unknown, like many of us do when we are about to  embark on a new chapter in our lives. 

Zeb is in the 10th grade. I can’t believe that he will be a SENIOR in 2 years, where has the time gone. Ashleigh is in the 6th grade. I am definitely getting older. Jayla is in the 4th grade. Soon I will have an empty nest, definitely not rushing it right now. 

They will meet new people, make new friends, laugh, cry, excel, become disappointed but with this they will LEARN some type of valuable life lesson. Old friends may become lost in the shuffle and you may discover that you don’t need a big circle just a loyal few. 

Here are a few things that I told them about starting the new school year. We can use this in our every day life.

  1. Learn everything that you can.
  2. Ask  questions.
  3. Listen for the answers.
  4. Be still.
  5. Be silent when needed. 
  6. Be Great!
  7. Give 120%! 


For the fact, I work at night, I missed out on watching them walk out the door this morning. It was bittersweet. I did get the joy of having the house to myself.

Have a great school year!

back to school




LOVE is…

Love is soothing, 

Love is calm,

Love is what you want in the perfect storm.

Love is caring, 

Love is kind,

Love will give you peace of mind.

Love is painful, 

Love is true,

Love will make you do silly things out the blue.

Love is somber, 

Love is sweet,

Love will make the messiest person neat.

Love is caring, 

Love is true,

I am so glad that, I LOVE YOU!

LOVE is what it does!  Don’t just tell me, I want you to show me!

Happy Reading! I hope you enjoy!

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The LOVE Month and GOALS!

The MONTH of LOVE is upon us. I have set a few ambitious goals for myself and “A Perfectly Flawed Ruby” and one of those goals are: To post everyday this month about “LOVE!” It may be a poem, an article, or pictures, just something about “LOVE”.


Also since it is Black History Month, I will also be posting daily about notable, infamous, and some unsung heroes. This week will be dedicated to our SPORTS HEROES! Today, I chose Doug Williams, the first black starting quarterback to lead their team to a Superbowl win. Check it out

By this time next week, hopefully Cam Newton will be the third starting black quarterback to lead his team, the Carolina Panthers to the Superbowl and win and the first black quarterback to win a National Championship at the collegiate level and professional level, let’s not forget he won the Heisman, too!

black history month

The second week will be devoted to technological advances by black Americans. My third week will devoted to actors, creative people, musicians, and others in this type of category. The fourth week will center around those who have made tremendous strides in political activism and they will carry the month out.

February is Heart Health month! I will post once a week about heart healthy ideas, recipes, and exercises that you can do to keep your HEART HEALTHY!

Happy Reading and Enjoy! 🙂

I love my ambition!



Our History!

February is Black History Month.  Black History is “Our” History.  I say “Our” because as Americans, we must learn the contributions of others.  Blacks have played a major role in the building of our nation, contributions to society, technology advances, bringing together the racial divide, and so much more.  During this month, I will shine light on some notable and not so notable Black Americans.

black history month

Since the Superbowl is next Sunday, the first History Maker that I chose is Douglas “Doug” Lee Williams.  Doug Williams was the first starting black quarterback to win the Superbowl XXII with the Washington Redskins in 1988 and was also named the Superbowl MVP.

He was drafted in the first round in 1978 by Tampa Bay Buccaneers and led them to the first NFC Championship Game.  He was the lowest paid starting quarterback in the NFL. and the lowest behind 12 backups. After a couple of years in Tampa Bay, he left and went to the USFL. Once the USFL fizzled out, he was recruited by Joe Gibbs, who was the head coach of the Washington Redskins.  He landed the starting job from Jay Schroeder and eventually led the Redskins to the Superbowl where they beat the Denver Broncos.

After his football career, he became the head coach of his Alma Mater, Grambling State University. He is still involved in football as an executive with the Washington Redskins.




doug williams

Super Bowl XXII
SAN DIEGO – JANUARY 31: Quarterback Doug Williams #17 of the Washington Redskins looks to pass during Super Bowl XXII against the Denver Broncos at Jack Murphy Stadium on January 31, 1988 in San Diego, California. The Redskins won 42-10. (Photo by Rick Stewart/Getty Images)



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Happy Reading and Enjoy! 🙂


My Top Twenty-Five Love Songs of the 1990’s!

I love music and I miss the music of my lifetime. Love songs, R&B, slow music, baby making music, and etc.  The stuff that you hear on the radio now is nothing compared to the music that we used to listen too.

  1. Gotta Be-Jagged Edge
  2. Pony-Ginuwine
  3. Bump and Grind-R.Kelly
  4. Freak Me-Silk
  5. All my Life-K-Ci & JoJo
  6. Come and Talk to Me-Jodeci
  7. Not Gon Cry-Mary J. Blige
  8. Back at One-Brian McKnight
  9. I wanna Sex U Up-Color Me Badd
  10. End of the Road-Boyz II Men
  11. I believe I can Fly-R. Kelly
  12. That’s the way Love Goes_Janet Jackson
  13. I will always love You-Whitney Houston
  14. Kiss of Life-Sade
  15. No Ordinary Love-Sade
  16. Burn-Usher
  17. Nice and Slow-Usher
  18. Angel of Mine-Monica
  19. Why I love you so much-Monica
  20. It seems like you’re ready-R. Kelly
  21. Diamonds & Pearls-Prince
  22. You-Jesse Powell
  23. Endless Love-Luther Vandross
  24. Because You Loved Me-Celine Dion
  25. From this Moment-Shania Twain

The songs are not in any particular order except for #1.  That song holds a very sentimental place in my heart.  I love Sade! I hope you enjoy and maybe you can think of some other songs that should be on the list.  There are some more artists that I can think of,too.





Happy Reading and Listening!


2015 in review

I want to make 2016 an even better YEAR for! Here are my goals for “A Perfectly Flawed Ruby!”

  • Share more quality and inspiring content.
  • Focus more on quality dialog and engagement with my followers/readers.
  • Reach 500 followers on WordPress by August 2016.
  • Reach 1000 followers on WP by December 31, 2016.
  • Offer MY experiences and share more about who and why I am “A PERFECTLY FLAWED RUBY!”
  • Set up a publishing schedule.

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,300 times in 2015. If it were a cable car, it would take about 22 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Mommy, we found it!

Guess what!!!! Nope, I didn’t buy another tree! However, they did find the tree stand! The tree is up and I let them decorate it.

Yippie!  No more long faces!

A valuable teaching moment: Persistence pays off!

In our everyday lives, there are teaching moments or lifelessons. We appreciate what they teach us.

I wasn’t going to spend unnecessary money on another Christmas tree. They already think that money seems to grow on trees.

Any who! Have a Merry Christmas!

I will put everything away this time…my lesson!

3 days until Christmas!

Their tree!

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